Shout out to all my straight sisters I’m so sorry 😞
Jesus, leave his ass.
We learn fast to be very kind and attentive, tho.
My mom, who got her degree in Marriage and Family Counseling when she was 60, says studies show that women will sometimes sometimes leave a long term relationship to live on their own for a while before seeking a new relationship, but men will almost never leave a long term relationship without having a new relationship either in progress or just beginning. They don’t want to give up the caretaker they have without another one on deck or in the wings.
This is so sad
This isnt cute or quirky. This means hes a fucking hopeless user
Please date a man who actually acts like an adult.
Ok I lived with my ex for 2 years and he literally wouldn’t be able to get his own food if I wasn’t at home, I’d get home from work and he’d be angry at me for “making him starve”
My current partner has lived on his own for 8 years and the absolute most I have to help him with is maybe sending him $20 so he can make a bill payment on time
It made me realise for 2-4 years I wasn’t a girlfriend I was a fucking mother
Men who have been independent are capable of reverting if given the slightest excuse. When we married, my ex husband was 10 years older than me and had lived on his own for 8ish years. Yet (and I allowed this until I finally got fed up and took us to counseling) I did 80% of the cooking, because I was better at it. Same with the cleaning, shopping, social planning, etc.
After I left, in the first six months I got texts or calls asking me to please tell him:
The online banking password (dude, I left you, you should really change that)
Where I ordered his special-wecial organic underwear
Where the good cutting board was (my dad gave it to us at our wedding, genius, I took it with me along with the rest of the stuff from my family)
What brand butter we bought
What brand of local kielbasa we bought
Who his doctor was
What RMV office had the shortest lines
Where the old tax returns were (in the fucking box labeled tax returns)
The phone number for his best friend
I shit you not.
Then he had a heart attack (mild) and none of his family or friends were around to take him to the hospital. But instead of calling 911, he called me, who by then lived 45 minutes away. He lived 5 minutes from an EMS dispatch location. He called me, despite the fact that he didn’t believe me 8 months prior when I was feeling suicidal and I had to call a cab to go alone to check myself into the hospital for a 72-hour hold. I told him to call 911, hung up on him when he whined about “making a fuss”, called 911, called his siblings and then texted them “your brother is having a heart attack, I called 911 for him, come home,” and washed my hands of it.
Emotionally vacant men who won’t do household labor or emotional labor are not Nazis, but they aren’t good people, either, and you don’t have to put up with their shit.
Disabled men who still live with their parents, even just for financial stability while being mostly independent otherwise, are considered losers and failures.
But is 100% socially acceptable for abled men to need women to take constant care of them.
also if this happens a lot of trans people may end up homeless and the. the government turns the other eye- proves how much they hate us!!!!!
For non-trans people who think, “eh, that’s sad, but it only affects a tiny fraction of the people,” NO IT DOESN’T – this is laying the groundwork for discrimination against women by declaring that it’s okay to treat the sexes differently. If everyone has the same rights, it doesn’t matter what gender someone is.
They’re claiming that it’s not discrimination to fire a trans woman for wearing skirts, because it’s not discrimination to say that only women can wear skirts and men must wear pants. They want to claim that sex-specific policies aren’t innately a form of discrimination – meaning they want to be able to say, “women must wear skirts; men must wear pants; this is equivalent treatment;” they want to be able to say, “women must smile at the customers; men don’t need to (oh maybe we can say men have to shake hands with customers if they’re receptionists),” and so on.
To erode women’s rights, first they have to erase trans rights, because their whole hierarchy is based on WHITE MEN ON TOP and they can’t establish that if the definition of “men” keeps changing on them. If someone who used to be labeled a “man” is now a woman, or vice versa, their claim that men are just innately more suited to be in charge, falls apart.
FIGHT THIS FIGHT THIS FIGHT THIS.
You can’t do anything to affect the courts, but you can:
VOTE next Tuesday (or before, if you have that option);
Treat trans women as women, trans men as men;
If you misgender someone, apologize and make an effort to remember the correct term;
Call out mistreatment when you see it, including in jokes – “I don’t think that’s funny; could you explain it to me?”
Refuse to help with mistreatment if it’s part of your job – delay getting things done, lose paperwork, correct people’s genders on forms if they’ve been switched, and so on.
LGBT BRAZILIANS TAKE CARE WITH DATING APPS AND GRINDR, THEY WILL BE USED TO TARGET VICTIMS PLEASE SIGNAL BOOST
ALSO!!!!!!!!!!!!
In Whatsapp (the most used messaging app in Brazil), if you receive a contact from a “juridical support group for LGBT+ people who are being harassed” called “REAJA”, DO NOT INTERACT!!!!!!! Apparently, this is not a real support group but it’s a trap that are targeting LGBT+ people to physically harm them. They people behind “REAJA” have very malicious intentions.
A professor asked if I prefer “Miss” or “Mister” (because nb) and I accidentally said “ya boi” without thinking so now I have a professor that calls me “ya boi Rogers” every time I see him.
