yourdangerousmind:

wedontcareaboutyourbinary:

revolutionaryqueernb:

Also in all this pan/bi discourse i wanna make sure everyones fucking clear

You can be attracted to nonbinary people. Its not nbphobic to be attracted to a nonbinary person. Its not fetishizing our identity to be attracted to us.

Yes, and specifically, since this seems to be the crux of the argument — it’s okay and good and right to be attracted to us as non-binary people, rather than as people your brain is categorizing as men and women. We’ll all feel differently about how it is and isn’t okay to group us, but we are all non-binary, and being attracted to NBs on the basis of our identity isn’t any more fetishistic than being attracted to men or women on the bases of theirs. Most non-bi/pan folk (and some in that group) will only be attracted to some kinds of NBs, but you can still call that “being attracted to NBs.”

— Mod Lune

I’m gonna go one further here and say that I, specifically, would only comfortable with people being attracted to me as a nonbinary person. If you are attracted to me as as an extension of your attraction to women/men, after I’ve made it clear to you I’m neither, that is misgendering. It doesn’t magically become not-misgendering because I’m not a binary trans person.