To jump off of that: The disdain for MOGAI labels means that literally any vocabulary younger than 3-5 years (and sometimes even up to 10-15 years), and ESPECIALLY any language associated with non-binary people, multi-attraction, or attraction based on factors that are not binary genders, gets automatically derided and dismissed.
And that’s just among LGBT+ folk. Cis straight people dismiss all that language automatically as ridiculous alphabet soup stuff, whether or not they know the phrase MOGAI to mock it with.
Can you see how this is a direct enemy of NB people — a community that (in this specific contemporary iteration of that concept) has only begun to articulate itself at all in the last 20 years, and only really picked up big steam in the last 5-10 — describing themselves at all?
Like if the cut-off for respectable LGBT language was 2000, and anything more recent than that is MOGAI bullshit…. modern NBs just aren’t allowed to talk about themselves whatsoever, because any word coined after 2000, especially if it was coined on tumblr, is just ~snowflakey MOGAI radikweers making up ridiculous nonsense words for overspecific concepts?~
If you’re an enemy of new specific language for new specific concepts, you’re an enemy of NBs. If you’re an enemy of reconsidering the usefulness of a gay-bi-straight orientation trinary, you’re an enemy of NBs. If you’re an enemy of “microlabels”, ie newly coined labels that don’t apply to you personally 🙄, you’re an enemy of NBs. If you’re not willing to imagine that the language NBs are coining for themselves right now can grow to be just as important and codified and significant as the language that lesbians and gay men use, and you’re not willing to lift it up, to be encouraging about its usage and include it where it’s applicable and appropriate, you’re an enemy of NBs. I don’t know what else to tell you.
Just wanted to highlight some HIGHLY relatable tags. “bitch ur nonbinary having to explain and getting made fun of is ur life now” is a huge fucking mood, and is probably the driving force in a lot of my decisions about the words I use.
Unless you’re a cis gay man, a cis lesbian, or a cis bisexual (and sometimes not even then!) having to explain what your words of choice mean, how they work in relation to you and your partners and your gender, is just par for the fucking course.
We would ALL be benefited by more mutual support for finding and using the language that fits you best — whether it was coined in 1915, 1975, or yesterday.
We’re all gonna get made fun of because we’re nonbinary. That’s just a reality. We’re always gonna be explaining ourselves and often failing to be understood. We may as well lean all the way into it and articulate ourselves in the ways that make us happiest, and support each other in doing so.
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