I had a blind professor, last semester, and I swung through his office to make up an exam. It was a while before I knew he was in there because he was sitting with the lights off. I finally went in, apologized, and took the exam by the light of a nearby window (which was fine). Forty-five minutes into dead silence he panicked and yelled in this booming voiced, “WAIT, YOU CAN SEE!!!” before diving across his desk to turn on the lights. I’m sure he was embarrassed but I thought it was endearing and it highlighted a large aspect of disabled life that I hadn’t previously considered.
Sort of relatedly I once had professor who was deaf, but she had learned to read lips and speak so she could communicate easily with hearing people who didn’t know sign language. One day she had gotten off topic and was talking a little about her personal life, so that one of the students said “Oh, I know, I grew up in Brooklyn too.”
She stared at him for a long time and then said “How do you know I’m from Brooklyn?”
And he said “You have a Brooklyn accent.”
She said “I do?” and the whole class nodded, and then she burst out laughing and said “I had no idea! The school where I learned to speak was in Brooklyn. I learned by moving my mouth and tongue the way my teachers did. So I guess it makes sense that I have their accent, I just never thought about it.”
hey isn’t it messed up how jkr created a type of creature that is kept in horrific slavery but is also incredibly happy for this to be the case
especially because it’s the exact opposite of any actual established folklore regarding dobbies, brownies, and other household sprites
isn’t it also messed up that when one of them actually wanted to be free the others shunned and vilified him because it was the worst thing they could imagine
Does anyone on this site understand the concept of comorbidity
Comorbidity is when 2 or more diagnoses are present in the same person. For example, someone having both depression and an anxiety disorder. I think a lot of people in general don’t really understand this. Most assume that anyone with more than 2 disorders has to be faking at least one of them – the statistical possibility of someone having both schizophrenia and ocd has to be pretty low, right???? Wrong – studies have shown that almost a whopping 50% of people with schizophrenia also have obsessive compulsive symptoms.
The brain is an impossibly complex and delicate organ, and there are millions of genes, neurons, and proteins that all have their respective jobs. And when something goes a little wrong upstairs, it has a huge impact on the entire system. That’s why it’s much more likely for someone to have MULTIPLE diagnoses, instead of just one – unless the disorder is incredibly localized, it’s going to affect a lot of your behaviors.
We’re not really sure what’s up with my brain without unrealistic amounts of testing, but we can still make diagnoses. I have ocd, adhd, psychotic depression, ptsd (although that was a result of trauma) and multiple sleep disorders. I have other symptoms we can’t really classify, because not everything can be neatly categorized. And sometimes I get irritated with all the things “wrong” with me, but my story is pretty par for the course. If you have one disorder, you’re much more likely to have more disorders too, whether they’re diagnosed or not.
The point is, comorbidity is common, and you should never assume someone is making up diagnoses for attention.
Also this goes for physical illnesses and conditions as well!
Relationships get so bananas when you start deciphering the other person’s love language.
Like I thought I was just acquaintances with this person because they never told me details about themselves and we just talked movies and writing . But then they made time to have coffee with me and they showed up out of breath because they ran. Like. RAN to be on time for coffee with me?
And I was like “i don’t mind waiting” cause I never want to run
But they said they wanted every minute they could get because I’m so busy usually
Which is when it clicked that I didn’t get how much they considered me a friend because I just straight away didn’t see MY signs of affection in them and went “cool! Casual buds it is.” But now that I’m seeing their signs of affection, I feel a little silly for dismissing them like that even though I felt like we could be best bros.
Anyway, some people show affection through time or intensity or commitment and not vocally. I really have to remember that!
Fyi- just in case you didn’t know.
TOUCH got a bro that likes to give high fives? Back slaps? Are they a hugger? Do they not blink an eye at cuddles?
QUALITY TIME this bro will (as op stated) sprint to spend every minute possible with you. Every second that you guys are together is a declaration of affection.
WORDS does your bro tell you how amazing and great and fantastic and wonderful you are all the time? Guess what…?
GIFTS do they buy you coffee? Snacks, energy drinks, spot you at the restaurant? Did that one key chain removed you of them? Ding ding!
ACTS are they always doing things for you? Ie: Nah bro, I got this, I can do that, need me to get anything for you, I can help with…?
PRO TIP – The way people show love is often how they receive love as well.
